How To Approach Women Anywhere - Part 1

By now you have realised that your dating life depends upon your own ability to approach women. Without meeting women, there is no love life for you. So whether you want to meet a lot of women and have the life of a rockstar or generate attraction with that woman that you've had feelings for forever, you need to learn a skill set that allows you to approach, attract and keep a woman attracted to you. So how do you do it?

There are women everywhere. If you're fortunate to live in a big city then not only is there a lot of women also living there, but there a lots of places to go to find women. There's parties, social events, coffee shops, gyms, malls, bookstores, libraries, health food shops and you might want to try the women's clothing floor in stores like Macy's, Saks and Selfridges.

Maybe it is a well known fact that people don't find the girl of their dreams in a night club and yet the women that frequent nightclubs are usually attractive. It seems that people go to clubs to hook up rather than find someone new.

One thing that I'm gradually finding the courage to do is do is cold approaches on women during the day. A cold approach is when you talk to a woman that you don't know. The dynamics of approaching a women during the day are different than at night. For one thing there's no heavy music around so you don't have to be as high energy as you would if you were in a club. In fact it's better if you're not. The second thing and probably the most important thing is that women are not expecting to be approached during the day. As such their defences are lower. Also there may be far less competition from other men when you make your approach on a woman during the day.

Ok so you're walking in the park and you spot a woman you'd like to talk to, what then? This is probably where approach anxiety is starting to kick in. You become scared, nervous and you talk yourself out of it. And then you argue with yourself for being a chicken and not talking to her. It's a fact that women will hardly ever walk up to a guy, and say that they're good looking and could she have his number? Unless of course you're Brad Pitt. Even in these days of equal rights, it still usually falls on the man to do the asking.

So how do you come up with the right words to say for the right situation? How do you keep the conversation going? How do you generate attraction and not boredom?

The answer is not what you want hear. There is no magic pill that will suddenly transform you into a confident, attractive and intelligent man. You will need help from books, CDs and seminars. It really all depends on how much you want to get this aspect of your life handled. But it is unlikely that you will do anything until the pain of not having the success with women proves too difficult to bear. Then you're ready to move on and up.

To read the rest of this article see part 2.